Figuring out a way to talk to your partner about an open relationship might prove to be a bit difficult. Especially if you don’t know their thoughts about the subject. If you are doing an online search to find answers about this, the odds are that you need help. It’s OK though. As our culture continues to evolve, more and more couples are choosing to find alternative measures in order to satisfy those deep-seated longings that somehow always seem to surface and not go away.
Step One: Communication
Having an open line of communication is crucial when it comes to matters of the heart. It is impossible to make somebody like something that they don’t want to. Yes, you can try to manipulate and coerce the situation all that you want, but in the end, if your partner doesn’t like it, they never will unless they choose to. Ultimately, for things to work out you both have to be on the same page. This is why it is so important to talk about this with each other. If you and your partner love each other you should be able, to be honest with each other and understand where the other is coming from.
Step Two: Honesty
How you feel is how you feel. You have to be honest about it. When you choose to step into a conversation with your lover about adding another person into the mix, you have to be honest. You have to tell them how you feel, and what you would like to do. In order to start the conversation, you may need to open it with a question, such as, “how do you feel about being in an open love relationship?” When they answer, regardless of what they say, you need to let them know your feelings about it. Even if they don’t agree with it at first. If it is important to you, be willing to allow some time for it to come together.
Step Three: Patience
You have to be patient with your partner. If you try to force them to agree with you, it could cause serious problems with your relationship. Some partners will be all for it, right now, “let’s do it!” However, some will be just the opposite and say, “NEVER!” If your partner is totally against the idea, you may want to re-evaluate your relationship with that person. Take a look into your own heart and figure out what is more important. Is it an open relationship, or is it the relationship you have with your partner.
Step Four: Acceptance
No matter what happens in your quest for an open love relationship you have to find acceptance in every step of the way. If your partner chooses not to partake in that kind of relationship, you have to accept it as it is. If they jump right on board, there is some acceptance that has to happen as well. Maybe they agreed to it and jumped on board a little bit faster than you wanted them too. Whatever the case is, at the end of the day the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. Being in complete acceptance of a situation will help you sleep better at night.